Who do you blame?
The one who broke you?
Or
Yourself? because you went on…
Or
The circumstances? because you were hopeful of them..
Or
The fling that happened amidst? because you lacked an understanding of what you wanted…

This started off as a poem, but I couldn’t help thinking about all that goes wrong or can go wrong in years-long relationships. Is it the expectations that are automatically offered with the relationship starter pack? Or, we tend to grow apart instead of growing stronger? But then what makes us stick around?
Relationships are complicated and beautiful, but it takes years of work to make them stable in a long-term setup. There have been mixed reviews from all over the world of perceptions about keeping a healthy relationship. Some say that it is the compromises from one out of the two partners, wherein some believe that it is a 50-50 ratio.
A romantic relationship doesn’t only comprise of romance, bargain and good times. I have no qualms about having good times with my partner but I believe that it is must to have an emotional bonding with one another and that must contain you enabling your vulnerable self out to them. Communication is one of the major attributes’ that’s considered to work for most of us; that leads to building a rapport between two people.
I understand that being too emotionally involved may backfire, but how else are we supposed to recognize the depth of love being real if it wasn’t for the significant other(s) to maneuver us through it? How do we divide the emotional responsibility in a relationship?

We spend years with someone, loving them, figuring them out and letting them break us, and then suddenly it ends. Have you ever wondered why were you in that relationship in the first place? What were you hoping would magically happen and would bandaid all those broken pieces of you?
Most of us take a leap of faith and drop ourselves in a pit full of false hopes and the ends, and I am trying really hard to not sound sad about it because I was able to move out of it. I am in a happy place, but the past follows.

How do you justify cheating on someone because you ran out of motivation to stay faithful? Everyone has a different notion about cheating in their minds, some would only comply cheating as sleeping with someone else, some would agree that cheating includes everything that someone in a monogamous relationship shouldn’t be pursuing. Yet, my understanding of cheating is limited to just being a reason for not being able to participate in your current relationship; but there can be a lot of reasons to why someone would pursue it over working on the relationship that requires work? and that lands me back to my question about what goes wrong or can go wrong in years-long relationships?

How are we so capable of working hard for the job we hate for money but aren’t ready to work on the relationships that make us a better person?
I understand that most of us realize it mid-way that there are differences and the two of us may want different things in life, there lies a conflict of interest; but then one must stop using love as a bandaid to affix variations.